Early one morning I was on FaceTime with my husband. As we were talking he said, "You look cute today!" I kind of brushed off his compliment, because it was 10 in the morning, and I was in my normal daily attire which most of the time is work-out gear and no make-up. Not very glamorous! I have become mostly okay with what I look like on a normal day, but on occasion I am a little embarrassed to go out like this. I feel much better about myself when I have showered and put an effort into what I look like, especially when out in public. But I have been wondering about this lately. Why is it like this? And I don't feel like I am the only one.
I sometimes hear other ladies (including myself) apologizing for not looking their best when they go out in public. As if we need to have make-up on, and an outfit that is put together to go out of the house. I can remember a few times personally when I have thought less of myself because of not putting in more time on my appearance when I have gone out. I know there are occasions that require being more dressed up than just "casual", but the problem is feeling chained to an idea that it is unacceptable to go out without being made up.
I am a firm believer that when we don't live out of our worth in Christ, we can fall into the trap of needing to be all done up in front of others. It feels good to hear from others that you look nice. Compliments are a good thing, but can become bad when we rely on them solely for our worth. Seeking the approval of our looks from others can become like a drug. The more we experience it, the more we want it. But it doesn't fill our need to feel valued for long. Once the feeling runs out, we just go back for more. Our outward appearance will never fill our deep longing for worth like Jesus will.
I have experienced this in such a way that I become obsessed with how I look when I get ready. I can strive for a level of perfection that will never happen. If something doesn't look just right, I waste more time to make sure it does. Changing from one outfit to the next. My unrealistic expectation is never met. And usually what I have done to make me feel better about myself just leaves me feeling less satisfied than before.
Finding freedom in putting workout clothes on almost every morning has been a blessing in disguise for me. I may not have put in the time to get all dolled up, but strangely it seems I feel better about myself. I am not worrying if my hair looks good, or if my make-up is just right. I struggle a little bit with feeling like I look plain, but not as much as when I get ready.
In my struggles with all of this, I have continuously been learning that my worth fully needs to come from Jesus. It will come from nothing else. There are times when we should look our best, and it all depends on where we spend our time each day. But I hope my struggles with this issue can let someone else know, you are not alone. Our beauty is not in what we look like each day, it's in Jesus.